{"id":643,"date":"2012-04-18T13:31:13","date_gmt":"2012-04-18T13:31:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/?p=643"},"modified":"2012-04-18T13:31:13","modified_gmt":"2012-04-18T13:31:13","slug":"the-un-friend-situation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2012\/04\/18\/the-un-friend-situation\/","title":{"rendered":"The &#8220;Un-Friend&#8221; Situation"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The sorrow I feel when I decide to un-<span class='bm_keywordlink'><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2012\/04\/18\/the-un-friend-situation\/\" target=\"_blank\">friend<\/a><\/span> someone is deep and strong. I truly feel that those in my list are *really* my friend.<\/p>\n<p>So, when I come to the realization that it&#8217;s not true and not real, it hurts. I really feel it. I wish it didn&#8217;t have to be this way.<a href=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2012\/04\/18\/the-un-friend-situation\/sadface\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-646\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-646\" style=\"margin: 5px;\" title=\"sadface\" src=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/sadface.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"120\" height=\"120\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve learned the only way to remove pain from my <span class='bm_keywordlink'><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2011\/12\/01\/here-i-go-again-thinking\/\" target=\"_blank\">life<\/a><\/span> is to nip it myself. As I&#8217;ve mentioned in previous posts, I refuse to be miserable at the hands of others. Coming to this decision was long and extremely arduous process. I do not take this lightly. I feel that this person did not and does not share the same feelings for me and my <span class='bm_keywordlink'><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2011\/12\/01\/here-i-go-again-thinking\/\" target=\"_blank\">family<\/a><\/span> as I do for them.<\/p>\n<p>I know that they will never understand how I feel and how they did me and my family wrong. It is for that reason that the scales tipped in favor of the &#8220;un-friend&#8221; move. It will have some serious fall-out. I can only hope that time will heal the pain this decision may cause. It&#8217;s possible that in the future I will send a new request to be my friend should the situation change, though I highly doubt that it will. It is not in this person&#8217;s nature to <span class='bm_keywordlink'><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2012\/01\/19\/conceding-is-not-failing-in-fact-ive-hit-the-jackpot\/\" target=\"_blank\">concede<\/a><\/span> or admit any fault, let alone recognize an error and apologize for it.<\/p>\n<p>I will still interact with this person and be as civil as I can possibly be since I still <span class='bm_keywordlink'><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2011\/12\/01\/here-i-go-again-thinking\/\" target=\"_blank\">love<\/a><\/span> this person. I just don&#8217;t have to share this space with them if I so choose. This is not a war, a <span class='bm_keywordlink'><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2012\/04\/01\/one-of-lifes-defining-moments\/\" target=\"_blank\">battle<\/a><\/span> nor do I feel it has to be a subject of inquiry. As you and I both know, this will have intense ramifications. I&#8217;ll be ostracized by mutual &#8220;friends&#8221; for my decision an I know it and I&#8217;m ready.<\/p>\n<p>Make no mistake, this space on FB is mine and I alone make the decision about who I share this personal space with.<\/p>\n<p>It is really a very <span class='bm_keywordlink'><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sankinator.com\/blog\/2012\/04\/18\/the-un-friend-situation\/\" target=\"_blank\">sad<\/a><\/span> situation. I&#8217;m truly sorry that it must be this way and it pains me deeply.<\/p>\n<iframe src=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/like.php?href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.sankinator.com%2Fblog%2F2012%2F04%2F18%2Fthe-un-friend-situation%2F&amp;layout=standard&amp;show_faces=true&amp;width=450&amp;action=like&amp;colorscheme=light&amp;height=80\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" style=\"border:none; overflow:hidden; width:450px; height:80px;\" allowTransparency=\"true\"><\/iframe>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The sorrow I feel when I decide to un-friend someone is deep and strong. I truly feel that those in my list are *really* my friend. So, when I come to the realization that it&#8217;s not true and not real, it hurts. I really feel it. I wish it didn&#8217;t have to be this way. 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